How To Get Laid In South Korea
First the relationships that do commence here seem to be characterized by a frantic kind of intensity; everything is speeded up here. One friend of mine explained it in this way. She had been seeing a man of two weeks and told me that it was the "equivalent of two months on the outside. Because we are in a foreign country, especially a country that is not always easy to live in at times, we enter into relationships that with slightly skewed perspective.
All the stages of a relationship that normally take several months back home can happen in several weeks here. Second, there is the realization that most foreign men are only interested in Korean women, and for many teachers that was their whole reason for coming to Korea. And while many Korean women are intelligent and mature, there are also many that idolize foreign men simply because they have white skin and are from the same country as Brad Pitt.
On more than one occasion I have heard white men completely denigrate everything about this country, and then proceed to try and pick up Korean women. I like to call it the "Heart of Darkness" syndrome. Life is so easy dating in seoul for foreigners them here and the most of the women are so much less demanding than they were back home.
So what options does that leave foreign women? This task is not as easy as it sounds. If you happen to find an eligible Korean man, you then have to put up with the negative reactions from not only the Korean community, but from the foreign community as well. On the Korean side, if the relationship remains casual confined to adventures in the front seat of his Tico then the whole thing can be pretty cool.
Of course, god help him if the family ever found out. But Korean men can also be deceiving. But if you can have a few laughs and a good time, nobody gets hurt. Unfortunately, the relationships often go much further than that and it is the foreign woman that ends up with the broken heart. Dating a Korean man is a great way to understand the culture, and to understand that you will never be a part of it. Historically, women dating in seoul for foreigners always expected to give up their family when they marry, and sometimes their country.
So what is the answer? I wish I knew. My only advice is to be careful, regardless of whom you date.