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Journals Recent Entries Best Entries Best Journals Journal List Search Journals. Community Cating Members List. I have been going out lately with a guy I met in a chatroom recently. We chatted intensely for a week and found we had a lot in common and he asked me to meet him for lunch a week later. As I had been through a breakup about 2 months ago I wanted to take things slow but I said yes. The first time he datjng me I noticed he had a slight speech impediment and I mjld sure what to think.
I'm a pretty open-minded person so I didn't let it bother me. Before I met him, he told me he had mild cerebral palsy dating slight limp so that I wouldn't be surprised when I saw him in person - again this was fine by me, I already liked the person he was from our chats etc. I didn't realise the extent of his disability till I met him for the first time - it seemed his slight limp was a lot worse than I had imagined and Paalsy gathered he might have cerebral palsy or something similar.
Regardless, we had a nice lunch and went to see a movie afterwards. I did not know what to think - it threw me a little even though I am a community worker and have worked with all types of people before. We went out again a week later cerebrak that's when he told me he had mild CP. He has a job as a radio announcer and so his disability doesn't really disable him so much. He is a smart, witty and funny guy. He is a strong person and has similar goals and values to me.
I guess the public response thus far has been bewilderment when an able-bodied woman like me goes out with him to shows and movies and we get stares and all kinds of ignorant comments. I am attracted dqting him but I guess I papsy taking this slow as because of his condition, I don't want to start something with him prematurely and then realise it wont work out and make him feel rejected because of his disability.
It would not be that per se but more so that I am still healing from my last relationship break-up. I told him I am happy daing mild cerebral palsy dating him on a casual basis as a friend even though I know his feelings for me are more than that of a friend. There is so much of a stigma attached to dating people with a disability but I am so drawn to him as he has mild cerebral palsy dating a big heart and is so kind and considerate towards me more so than the able-bodied mild cerebral palsy dating I have dated so cerebarl.
I really don't know mild cerebral palsy dating to do. I guess I should follow my heart but the implications are so great I guess I am just treading with caution - what is your take on this situation? We have fun together but a future with him - I just don't know Jild Share this post on Digg Del. You've said datnig this guy is smart, strong person, and if things don't happen to work out between you, no doubt he'll deal with that However strong a person is, being rejected for something that's personal, outwith their control and probably an issue they've spent a lot of time and effort coming to terms with, is going to be hard to take You know all this, and it's put you ferebral a dilemma.
Worrying about him feeling rejected as a result of his disability is encouraging you to focus on it I would be inclined to simply focus on oalsy enjoy the many positive aspects this man has on offer, and not spend time fretting about the possibility of hurting him thereby turning him into a victim in your mind, when he doesn't sound anything like a victim in reality or analysing whether the two of you have a future together.
You've only known eachother for a short time. Just take the approach you would with anyone else - that you're still in the process of getting to know eachother, and aren't therefore in a position to contemplate what the future might hold for paly both. Yes I would, if the quality of their character cerevral my wants my needs, my standards.
My wife has a disorder, bipolar type 2. While it's a factor we both have to deal with on a near constant basis, the disorder does not define her as a person. That she does on her own. To reject someone for something they didn't ask for, can't help mild cerebral palsy dating are powerless to change can often be tantamount to throwing out the baby with the bath water! Guess it all depends on how much you allow yourself to like him, feel attracted to him and let whatever it is between you two to grow IF you feel you can't handle his CP, or all that it brings though he does seem perfectly normal and functioning fine then end it now before you both get hurt.
Do some research on Xerebral, understand what it is and if it will progress, get dting etc Now to answer your question If I had deep feelings and felt that the relationship could be a wonderful thing, I would take the chance. Thanks guys - this all helps - it's a lot to consider as he is a decent person all round and I would not want to mess him about hence me taking it slow and seeing what develops - we had lunch in dting park today and then a coffee which was rather pleasant He would not be surprised by any reaction you cerebrla to his illness.
He has likely heard it all and probably would appreciate directness over roundaboutness. If it bothers mild cerebral palsy dating, it bothers you. It doesn't make you a bad person if it bothers you. We all have our thing. Xerebral know you're only seeing him casually, and I feel rather silly saying cerenral, but remember, it's genetic and can be passed to children.
Just throwing that out there in case you're a "planner". Actually milld palsy is not something passed down to children as I have done some research into this - and nearing thirty, mild cerebral palsy dating I do consider this when making a decision about having a possible long-term relationship with someone. Correct me if I'm wrong but I don't think CP is hereditary.
If you are having a good time with this guy, then I would go for it. I think what LIndya said about you cerebrla on his disability being a reason for splitting mild cerebral palsy dating was great. He sounds like a wonderful person, who has achieved alot despite his disability, which says good things about his character.